Because there are so many complex layers when it comes to addiction, there are a number of distinct problems that addicts must face as they get involved in recovery. One thing that becomes an issue is the tendency to place blame. Addicts often get in the habit of blaming everything or everyone but themselves when they are dealing with consequences.
It is difficult and painful to take responsibility for your actions or even admit that you have a problem. As their sense of denial deepens and they feel the need to protect themselves, addicts start playing the blame game rather than be held accountable for their own mistakes.
Once a person enters recovery, they need to understand that placing blame on external sources is counterproductive to their sobriety. No one can make lasting change when they are avoiding taking responsibility and complaining about their situation. To heal and overcome challenges, recovery patients need to end their blame game and take an honest look at themselves and their own actions.
Overcoming Challenges and Taking Control
Although addiction is a disease and there are many factors that can contribute to someone developing substance abuse problems, it is still important to take personal responsibility for your own actions. Even though you may have a genetic predisposition for addiction, have had a traumatic past, or even are dealing with a mental illness it is important to see yourself as capable of overcoming these challenges in order to become sober.
Although there can be many factors to blame for your addiction it does not mean that you cannot change your behavior or be held accountable for substance abuse. Having a difficult past or many obstacles to overcome can make it very hard to change but taking control of your own life is possible. The important thing is to face these challenges in order to heal instead of escaping from them through substance abuse.
Moving Forward through Responsibility
Blame can often be an automatic response and there can be good reason to place blame in some cases. If you have been self-medicating for an issue of depression that was never treated or you have a history of childhood abuse then it makes sense to blame these problems as the cause of your addiction. However, it can be dangerous to think that these problems make you fated to be an addict.
Although these life events are not your fault and they have had a negative impact, placing blame will not help you overcome your disease. To conquer the disease of addiction you need to stop placing blame and begin to think about actions to take that will help you feel that you are in control of your fate. A traumatic past does not define who you are and you can become a strong person in spite of what may have happened in your life. People from all walks of life no matter what their circumstances may be are able to recover from addictions.
To get out of the blame game it is important for an addict to take steps in order to think about what they can do differently to overcome their addiction. Finding ways to become a better person and listening to or helping others can create a more positive outlook on life. It is also crucial for an addict to admit to their mistakes and be more honest with themselves and everyone around them. Realizing that in the end, they are the one that made poor decisions is painful but is necessary in order to move forward. Thinking of everything you do as a conscious choice can help you move past blaming others to focus on self-improvement.